The Attraction Factor - 4 Simple Yet Powerful Principles That Will Melt Any Man's Heart by Bob Grant

Author:Bob Grant [Grant, Bob]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Publisher: Bob Grant
Published: 2012-11-06T16:00:00+00:00

Attraction Factor #2 - Focus on a great guy, not one particular guy

(Assuming you're single and not currently involved with someone) —

For over 20 years I've watched so many of my clients and friends cling to the idea that if they’re the perfect weight, have long flowing hair or _____________ (anything else you can put to fill in this blank that would make you “perfect”), then they would be able to attract ANY guy. Ponder that for a minute, because I'm sure you might have thought the same thing yourself.

Even though you might agree that it would be impossible to make every single man want you, I find the desire for such hypnotic power over men to be an almost universal wish among women. However, if it were actually true, then all a woman would need is to discover the mystical method, outfit, hair color or a script that attracts any man, and he’ll be powerless to resist her charms.

You know this isn't true — you do know this, right? Let me explain clearly why it isn't true:

1.) Some men are simply not good for you. They may be great-looking and charming, but it's a trap for you and your heart if you allow yourself to be swept off your feet by such superficial characteristics. From a therapeutic perspective, these men are what Peter Kramer, in his book called "Should I Leave," describes as men who are “a hazard to women.”

On the outside, they give women the impression that they are confident and secure, wanting an intimate relationship with only one woman. Their actions and words convey how deeply they feel, and they can make any woman feel like she is the most special woman alive.

Yet, beneath the surface lies a deep secret that they often choose not to realize about themselves, and which they never share with the woman whose heart they are about to break. These men fear being overwhelmed by a woman's emotions. While they gorge themselves on the intensity of passion and the chemistry they feel with a new woman, it is only a matter of time before they are full. Emotionally, they cannot take any more, and suddenly the effortless attraction, or “connection” that they felt for the unsuspecting woman, is gone, only to be replaced by a feeling of emptiness.

Unable to explain why their feelings have changed, they project their disillusionment onto the woman. Suddenly he notices that she is a few pounds overweight, or that her laugh, which was once delightful, is suddenly like nails scratching a chalkboard. He pulls away emotionally. This only makes her want to pull him closer, wondering where her ability to arouse his passion has gone.

"What did I do wrong?" she asks herself. It’s all she can think about. Surely if she could figure out what she said or did that upset him so, then she could apologize, and their romance would be rekindled. Yet, nothing she does or even offers can appease him.

She rushed into the relationship

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